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I've been wanting to talk about this one for a while now actually...
It's The 8 O'Clock Cat at your beck and call. Now, church is a place that should be held in solemn respect. For some, it's a place to worship the Lord. For others, it's a place to discuss social problems and social issues (from the streets to the household). For others still, it's a place of business.
But sometimes you can't help but appreciate beauty ...especially in church.
I don't care if you're Black, White, Latino, Asian, Pacific-Islander... if you're a man who goes to church, you know where I'm coming from with this. There's this "forbidden fruit" complex with Church Sistas. Should I be looking at her like that? Now, why'd she have to go and wear that dress? Knowing full and well that you should be concentrating on the service.
Even if you have more innocent things on your mind, like wanting to ask her out, Church Sistas are different from other kinds of sistas. So if a man decides he wants to date this Church Sista... who knows. Her parents might be right in the congregation. If a Church Sista is young, then her parents are going to be in service with her more often than not.
What this means is, a guy cannot step to a Church Sista in a manner that he steps to a sista outside of the church. See, he has no choice but to mind his P's and Q's so to speak. He can't come with pick-up lines. He has to be straight-up professional... and he has to be willing to commit. Honestly, this also means he has to hold back a bit in his approach. He doesn't have as much wiggle-room as opposed to on the outside.
There's this joke that the only difference between a Church Sista and a Club Sista is a Sunday morning... and this may be true at times. But as long as it's Sunday morning, it's a different ball game.
But what about for women? Do women look at Church Brothas like that? Is this only a guy thing?
This is The 8 O'Clock Cat saying, I'm not quite done with Church Sistas... wait until next time. There's a different kind of Church Sista out there.
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SO TRUE! There is definitely a correct/incorrect way to approach a "church sistah" & one thing you briefly touched up on: the only difference between a Church Sistah & a Club Sistah is a Sunday Morning?!
lol...I always get crazy stares when people ask specifically on a Sunday Morning when I'm wearing church clothes (obviously!)..."so uhmm, are you a good "church girl"???! My reply: NO! ....I'm a saved girl ;)
see there's not much difference from a 'typical' church attendee and a club hopper...they're both Religious! They go to their respected places religiously, out of habit, perhaps for the social gathering OR just to find a mate!! lol...Because yes, some people just go to church to Hook up with someone before they leave!!
BUT THERE IS, however, a difference between a "Church Sistah" and a SAVED SISTAH! a saved sistah has given her life to Christ, She loves him & strives to be like him on a continuous basis, not because she feels obligated, but because God is her priority, her necessity, her Lover, her friend, her Pilot!! ;) AND NO, this is not to say she's "super-human" or a "super saint trying to be baby Jesus, but calling her a "church sistah" may come along with hidden inuendos and stereotypes swept under the rug (the undercover slut/freak, hypocrite, etc.
& Needless to say, I'm no church sistah, but best believe this sistah is Saved, 'goes to church', & loves God endlessly :)
.....Good blog! I'm anxious to see part two!!
I dont know about women but I know you need to be on your best behavior hitting on a woman in your church. Even if she isnt that holy.
its not only a guy thing because i honestly find the most attative guys in church. i dont know if its the knowing that they are into church that attracts me but i find myself looking at men in church from time to time
Good to see you posting again :D
hmm it just depends on the "character" of said person because once upon a time you COULD get a good church girl and probably still can but really from what I've been noticing, that these so called "churches" (and not all) is just the same as the outside/secular world.
Remember someone partying at the club and then turning around going to Sunday service?! I NEVER understood that, I always believed that you should stay in and get soem REST for the Lord so you can praise HIM instead of coming in there (probably hungover) just for the sake of saying you went.
You can meet a good girl anywhere, just be mindful of the character of the person and Not where they at because it could be *fake*
I really hate labels and most men think that somehow "church" girls are better but really are they?
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im not going to speak for all church girls or non church girls, but i will tell you this-- here on UNC's campus, the top 5 biggest *unholy* women (meaning, the ones that have slept their way across campus, the ones that can be seen out drunk without fail every thursday, friday, saturday, and sometimes even sunday nights.. the ones who cant be trusted for shit, etc).. are also the ones who are in church faithfully (and hungover) every sunday morning. it's my experience that the more passionate somebody is about "asking for forgiveness " thru christ usually is directly proportionate to how much fucked up shit they're doing. that's fine with me, everybody has their vices, but i just find it amusing that without fail the most frequent church-attenders i know also happen to be the most un-godly people.
Lovely evenings to Shandra E... *the misses, clnmike, xxxx, thehoustongirl, and Cecelia.
This was a very interesting read.
The Saved Sista... why didn't I think of that? Thank you for bringing that up. There IS a difference between the two. I combined the two when they really should be separate. Well, this is what "Part 2"s are for.
--And I fully note that you are indeed a SAVED SISTAH, which I find to be very warm. [@ Shandra E...*the misses]
Haha! You ain't never lied, Mike. You ain't NEVER lied. [@ clnmike]
So women do it as well, eh? Whether a man goes to church is very important in the eyes of any woman; religious or not. So the fact that he's there might make him seem more desirable ...especially since a lot of younger men tend NOT to go to church. [@ xxxx]
Ah, thehoustongirl! What's up?
That's right. Church Sistas just aren't what they used to be. It used to be that a Church Sista was ALSO a Saved Sista. Now, the line is a LOT more blurred.
"...Just be mindful of the character of the person and Not where they at because it could be *fake*"
Mmm... I like that. [@ thehoustongirl]
Interesting. The more passionate a person asks for forgiveness, the more messed up shit they did during the course of the prior week. Very difficult to argue with that, it's very logical.
Some people, well... a LOT of people try to take advantage in just the manner you described. They try to do whatever they can get away with... and come Sunday, they repent so that they may start all over.
I don't know how they do things in North Carolina so I'll take your word for it.
Although you can be cynical at times, Miss "I'll appreciate it if he's not home when I get there".
Haha. I still can't believe you said that.... you're a complicated woman. [@ Cecelia]
Once again K. Michel, you press my thoughts so well!
Yes, church brothers do have to step to church sistas in a unique way, minding their p's and q's, but once that formality is dealt with, watch out!
I honed some of my best techniques on a church brother, or two. Nothing like forbidden fruit--and one such piece was the oh so talented choir musician/director...he could play all the instruments, bass, organ, piano, drums. And oh the music we made...no intercourse, but lots of interaction.
Oops, this is supposed to be about minding p's and q's.
Ms. Down Low
Hey Kat, I always love it when you stop by.
Haha, is that so? I suppose that's one way to learn how to make music. You know, I always wanted to be a choir director. [@ downlow]
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