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It's that time of the week. The 8 O'Clock Cat has arrived. So, I was asked to give my views on "chivalry". Why aren't men as chivalrous as they used to be? Stuff like that.
For those who don't know what a chivalrous act is, it's something of a gracious consideration shown toward a lady ...or even the elderly, without them having to ask for assistance. Plus, this is all done without the expectation of a reward. One of the most famous of these considerations is when a man would hold the door open for a lady. Another is when a man waits until the lady is seated before eating.
We don't see that often nowadays, and I do hear women ask ...why aren't men more chivalrous?
I don't think it's any one thing. Times have changed. Before there were certain roles that a gender usually fulfilled. Now, great strides have been made in the name of equality ...and gender roles aren't as prevalent now as they were before.
So, could the feminist movement (independent movement) be responsible for the lack of chivalry nowadays?
Then there's the fact that men are getting where they need to be ...without it. Guys can get dates, phone numbers and sex without the need for it. What this actually means is that chivalry won't necessarily get men the kind of attention he may want. This attention being a date ...or a phone number ...or sex.
So, is it more efficient to cut out the middle man (chivalry) and get straight to the action?
I guess I have a question of my own. What would chivalry accomplish in this day and age? Would it bring men and women closer together again?
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to answer your question i think that we do need chivalery.. i think with it, it will make relations/relationships and dating alot more successful and fun. respect will be reborn... respect is lost because chivalery is dead. when people think they do not need to work for you they wont.. so chivalery is def needed
chivalry is (for the most part) dead and i have no idea why any woman who believes in "equality" would want it to come back.
not that i have any problem with people doing nice things for each other, or even men doing nice things for women, but it's the part about doing it *because* she's a woman part that needs to stay dead.
that just sends the message that it's ok to base your interactions on the sex and not the person.. and that's a slippery slope for women to play on.
ah times are changing arent they? -__-
times have changeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed!
i believe if you get the right kind of man its not dead....just dead in some people.
Lovely afternoons to xxxx, Cecelia, sawuhcuhmeal, Americanising Desi, and chocolate girl ......
That's interesting. It does make sense, chivalry amounting to respect ...but respect for whom? [@ xxxx]
I can't deny that. Yes, it's a slippery slope ...after all, you can't have your cake and eat it too.
Whoa, is this the first time we agreed on something? Hmm... [@ Cecelia]
Yes, they are. They are changing. I take it you miss chivalry, too? [@ sawuhcuhmeal]
Haha, so I hear. Is change bad? [@ Americanising Desi]
Yeah, I'm one of those men. It's second nature to me ...I don't even think before doing it.
But I've been told that I'm "different" somehow. I'm still wondering if "different" is a good or bad thing. [@ chocolate girl .....]
It is my believe that parents have become lax in teaching young men what it means to be chivalrous and lax in teaching young ladies how to be on the receiving end of the act. Despite the state of the "times", it should be etched in their character to react to situations and not social trends. Do we need it? Yes! It is character building and a form of respect.
Chivalry is far and in between these days. My husband was brought up with those values and practices on a regular bases but I see a lot of young men not practicing it at all. I think Parents have become much more laid back with this than mine were. Its something that just isn't taught anymore and that's kind of sad. I think if men would practice it more women would feel much more valued by there partners. I know personally I feel far more appreciated it it chivalry is in act when i am with a male.
Warm welcomes to Crystal Monae and luvleeme83.
So, I take it your FOR chivalry. Haha.
Well, you bring up a good point. After all, the generation of parents are getting younger and younger... so maybe our generation weren't TAUGHT to be chivalrous. [@ Crystal Monae]
Ah, you agree with Crystal Monae. Yeah, who knows? It could very well be a parental thing. Maybe they don't think it's important anymore? [@ luvleeme83]
i think in general people just arent respectful anymore.regardless if its directed to a man or woman its very rare to hear someone say please and thank you to the most simplest of gestures like opening a door or picking something up from the floor.
Chivalry isn't really dead, well some of it may have but I always appreciate when guys open the doors or being a real gentle man to women. They still make me melt.
Chivalry goes a long way.
Oh Chilvary! I'm all for equality, but call it pride, I do expect to be asked out, and not the other way around.
Not to mention, I have a weakness for gentlemen. I don't expect the man to pay for everything though; the women in my family, although they are very independent and have paved their way in this world without a man for the most part, they do think that a good man provides for his family and his woman...as in, if he's around, he should be the sole provider, while, I'm not down with men and women having set roles we have to fulfill.
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